STWTK :- Do you ever feel taken for granted?

[SpeedTrip]

So PSB,
Lately I've been feeling like I'm being used, abused and taken for granted for my good nature and generosity by Friends, ex Family and Work.
It's becoming ever increasingly emotionally,mentally, physically and financially draining.
What should I do and what would you do?
I wouldn't mind so much if it was Quid Pro Quo
But I aint seen no Quid
I aint no Pro
And I definitely aint gettin any Quo

[Chaos-incarnate]

Learn more offensive language and get an anti social hobbie.
PM me if you want some moral support

[Thunderbird]

Tell them t fuck off. Im thinking of going this way myself. Or if you wanted to be politer about it tell them you already have plans, cant afford it etc etc.

Personally I ge so sick of having to buy friends, friends kids, birthday, enagement, wedding and christmas presents constantly. When all your friends get married and pop out kids at the same time it gets expensive. I feel I get punished for geting marired early and choosing not to have kids. Honestly does a 1 year old kid really need a party or is it just for the parents?

While we are on the subjuect is it rude to invite people over for a BBQ or dinner and then expect them to bring their own food? I know if I host a BBQ or beers or a movie night I will cater for everyone and then you can byo some alcohol or special needs food. These people in question invite you around expect you to half cater the event and then when they go to someone elses house and do the same thing they bring fuck all.

Rant over and sorry if I hijacked your thread, I thought it was all related.

[karen]

Remember when we had a good laugh? Come over and we'll have another one.
You know how antisocial I am, but I will always have time for you.

[filbert]

just learn to say no, it doesn't have to be loud, it doesn't need to be rude, but you do have to mean it and stick to it.

Once you can say no you will find yourself helping the same people out sometimes because you're obviously a good bloke but it won't feel like you're being used because it was your choice, take the power back

[Sprint]

Let's go for a ride - the usual pace.
Cathartic, it is.



S.

[Neil-51]

+1 Filbert.

I help people regularly. Most of the time it is good, but I know I hit times where too many people want something, I end out juggling demands and get pissed off. When that happens, I politely say no until I feel in control again. I guess a difference is that I know if ever I need anything the others will be quick to jump in and help.

[Rat750]

I'm picking up what you're putting down Rob. Sometimes you just have to put yourself first and worry about everyone else later. True friends and supportive family will understand.

ps.........cathartic ride......txt me

[shan]

Yes

[Mo-Fo]

I think my g/f sometimes feels this way. Must be my shitty b/f skills. Then again treat em (a bit) mean and keep em keen.

[Hewie]

What outcome would you like ? Would you prefer to receive more recognition for your acts? Or would you prefer not to do them in the first place.

If youre feeling like this cause you actually dont want to help these people but somehow feel bound to then as others have said then you probably need to say no more often.

If you are happy to help but would just like a thank you or other recognition then its prolly time to start telling people thats how you feel.

[Ozboy]

Sorry you feel this way Rob, there are those of us here who enjoy your company and don't expect anything from you. Maybe its time to find YOU, take a break and really look into yourself and find whats important in your life.

I would say this feeling is akin to a mid life crisis, I'm feeling it too. Lets get together and drink copious amounts of German beer (no Scotch), that always made us feel good.

[chew]

Next time you are supposed to be somewhere, leave the phone at home go for a ride to a rocky outcrop (e.g. Trigg Island) overlooking the ocean and watch the water for a couple of hours. Or do what yoda says. Make some Speedtrip time.

[Rat750]

Sorry you feel this way Rob, there are those of us here who enjoy your company and don't expect anything from you. Maybe its time to find YOU, take a break and really look into yourself and find whats important in your life.

I would say this feeling is akin to a mid life crisis, I'm feeling it too. Lets get together and drink copious amounts of German beer (no Scotch), that always made us feel good.

I'm a bit younger than you two but I'm always here for moral support

[shan]

Sorry you feel this way Rob, there are those of us here who enjoy your company and don't expect anything from you. Maybe its time to find YOU, take a break and really look into yourself and find whats important in your life.

I would say this feeling is akin to a mid life crisis, I'm feeling it too. Lets get together and drink copious amounts of German beer (no Scotch), that always made us feel good.

Chang Mai Northen Thai land.
Twisty paradise
Go get lost and come back happy

[Phildo]

[quinn]

Some sound advice from Filbert - Say no and stop the cycle

[Taz]

Sorry you feel this way Rob, there are those of us here who enjoy your company and don't expect anything from you. Maybe its time to find YOU, take a break and really look into yourself and find whats important in your life.

I would say this feeling is akin to a mid life crisis, I'm feeling it too. Lets get together and drink copious amounts of German beer (no Scotch), that always made us feel good.

Ozboy...can I come for the beers as well...

and

Hewie...

I used to help people all the time and never expected anything in return, the word " Thanks" would have been nice to hear but even that was a hard stretch from some ...funny thing is that when you dont help the same people they dont want to know you...

[potato]

So PSB,
Lately I've been feeling like I'm being used, abused and taken for granted for my good nature and generosity by Friends, ex Family and Work.
It's becoming ever increasingly emotionally,mentally, physically and financially draining.
What should I do and what would you do?
I wouldn't mind so much if it was Quid Pro Quo
But I aint seen no Quid
I aint no Pro
And I definitely aint gettin any Quo

get over it

it comes back bro, takes a bit of time but it does come back.

maybe not from those you have given too either,see, what have you done for me? but im still giving you some.........

just give on your terms and in your own time.

[Lefty]

Lets get together and drink copious amounts of German beer (no Scotch), that always made us feel good.

Next time you are supposed to be somewhere, leave the phone at home go for a ride to a rocky outcrop (e.g. Trigg Island) overlooking the ocean and watch the water for a couple of hours.

Pretty much these two.

Or just go out with a camera, bike, a few hours and no plan.